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How does a Father Teach his Children Tawheed? – Shaykh al-Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him).
Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:
How does a father teach his children Tawheed (Oneness of the Creator and Sustainer)?
● ‘He teaches them Tawheed just like he teaches them other matters of the Deen. From the best of what is in this subject is the book ‘The Three Principles’ by Shaykh-ul-Islaam Muhammad bin AbdulWahab (may Allaah have mercy on him). If he makes them memorise it by heart and explains to them its meanings appropriately to their understanding and their intellects.
Then there comes a lot of goodness from this. This is because this book is built upon questions and answers, and clear easy expressions, which have no complexity.
Then the father shows them the Ayaat of Allaah (His signs) so that he can practically implement what is mentioned in this small book.
For example, the sun, the father asks, who created it? Likewise the moon, the stars, the night and day, you say to them:
‘The sun, who created it? Allaah.
The moon? Allaah, the night? Allaah, the day? Allaah. Allaah -Azza wa Jal- created all of these. This is so that one can water the tree of the Fitrah (the natural disposition) because the human himself has been created with his natural disposition upon Tawheed of Allaah -Azza wa Jal.
Like the Prophet (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) said:
(كل مولود يولد على الفطرة ، فأبواه يهودانه أوينصرانه أو يمجسانه)
‘Every newborn is born upon the Fitrah (natural disposition), so it is his parents who either make him into a Jew or into a Christian or into a Majoos (fire worshipper).’
● Also he teaches them Wudu, how to make Wudu by demonstration and saying: This is how one does Wudu, and he performs the Wudu in front of him.
● Likewise the Salah (prayer), along with taking aid with Allaah Ta’ala, and asking Allaah -Azza wa Jal- for guidance for them. Also, that one keeps away from any statement which opposes good behaviour or every prohibited action, so he should not get them used to lying, cheating and treachery, nor lowly manners.
Even if the father was trialed by prohibited actions, like if he was trialed by smoking, he should not smoke in front of them because they will get used to it and it will become easy upon them to do it as well.
One should know that every man of a household is responsible for the people of the house, due to the saying of Allaah Tabaraka wa Ta’ala:
(يَا أَيُّهَاالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَاراً)
《 O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell)》[Tahreem: 6]
Our protecting them from the fire cannot be except if we get them used to righteous actions and to leave off bad actions. The Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) affirmed that in his saying:
(الرجل راع في أهله ومسؤول عن رعيته)
‘A man is a shepherd for his family and he is responsible for his flock.’
A father should know that their being righteous is beneficial to him in this world and the hereafter Indeed from the closest of people to their fathers and mothers are the righteous children, male and female.
(وإذا مات الإنسان انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث: صدقة جارية، أو علم ينتفع به،أو ولد صالح يدعو له )
‘When a person dies his actions cease except for three: continuous charity, or knowledge people benefit from, or a righteous child who supplicates for him.’
We ask Allaah Ta’ala to aid all of us upon carrying out the trust and responsibility.’
[Silsilah Noor ala Darb. Tape: 350 side A]
Children & Isbal (trousers below ankle) – Mustafa George
Bismillah hir Rahman ir Raheem
There is no doubt that from the affairs that every Muslim father and mother will be questioned about on the Day of Judgment will be the raising of one’s children. The Prophet (salAllahu wa salam) said:
“All of you are shepherds and all of you will be questioned concerning his flock.”
Due to this reality, we find that the Salaf were very diligent in raising their children (from young)upon righteousness.
Ibn Umar (may Allaah be pleased with them) was reported to have said:
“Raise your children correctly, verily you are responsible for them and you will be questioned regarding your rearing of them.” (Shu’ab al Eman 8295)
Mu’awiyah ibn Qura is reported to have said to his children after praying Salatul ‘Isha:
“Oh my children, sleep (early), it’s possible that Allaah will bless you by allowing you to stand a portion of the night in prayer.” (Zuhd by Imam Ahmed 234)
Saleh ibn Ahmed bin Hanbal (may Allaah have mercy upon them) is reported to have said:
“My father (Imam Ahmed) would call me whenever a righteous man visited him, in order for me to look at that man, in hopes that I would be like that person.” (Siyar 12/530)
If one were to look into the books of the people of knowledge, he would find that the Salaf were also diligent with regards to the dress of their children. An example of this is in the following statements:
Jabir ibn Abdullah (may Allaah be pleased with him) is reported to have said:
“We used to prevent our young boys from wearing silk, and we would allow it for our young girls” (Sahih Abi Dawud 3424)
Abdur Rahman bin Yazid said:
“I was in the company of Ibn Masoud when a young boy wearing silk approached, upon seeing him Ibn Masoud removed the silk from the boy and ripped it.” (Ibn Hazm in Muhalah 4/40)
Ibn Qudamah (may Allaah have mercy upon him) mentioned in Al Mugni:
“It is also forbidden for the parent to allow his/her child to wear that which is forbidden, just as it is prohibited to allow them to drink alcohol or indulge is usury.” (Al Mugni 1/344)
Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allaah have mercy upon him) mentioned:
“…that which is forbidden for the male to wear, it is likewise forbidden for him to allow his child to wear…” (Majmoo’22/139)
Although the above statements are addressing the wearing of silk, these proofs along with their comments can also be applied to the wearing of the pants below the ankle, and Allaah knows best.
Sheikh Muhammed bin Saleh al Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy upon him) said in response to a question posed to him concerning the ruling on children’s clothing which contains pictures. The Sheikh responded: The people of knowledge have mentioned that it is forbidden to allow a child to wear that which is forbidden for a grown person to wear… (he continued to deal with the issue of pictures on clothing). Then the questioner replied: Does this ruling also apply to isbal for boys? The Sheikh said: Yes, it also applies to isbal for boys. (Important Questions for the Muslim Family pg.144)
Sheikh Abdullah Al Ghudayan (may Allaah preserve him) said concerning Isbal for the young boys: The parents should condition their children to dress Islamically while they are still at a very young age. (Weekly gathering with the Westeners, Riyadh)
I hope and pray this brings some clarity.